Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Wedding cliches, nevertheless true

I feel a need to update, but I can't even begin to organize my thoughts on the wedding yet. This would be a plausible reason not to update at all. But in my case I think it just means I'll write some stream of consciousness post and then come back later and write something better. Part of the problem presently, is I don't have many of the pictures back yet, and generally my way to condense and make sense of big events and trips is to break them down into visual chunks that I can complement (or in some cases probably detract from) with text.
Our first professional wedding picture from the talent Toni Skotcher

The other problem is that everything I can possibly think to say about the wedding has already been said by so many others. "I felt surrounded and supported by such incredible love from friends and family." "It all seemed to go by so quickly." "It was one of the happiest days of my life." I know cliches are oft-used for a reason, and it should come as no surprise that others have felt the same way about their wedding as I do about mine (or I should say: ours). The fact that so many other people have felt these same emotions as they underwent similar ceremonies in no way takes away from my experience. I'm just incredibly lucky to have gotten to experience them myself. Because it's true--having so many people you love and care about in one place is both wonderful and exhausting in the best possible way. While I felt slightly bittersweet about the fact that with so many people I wanted to talk to and catch up with, I never had as much time as I wanted, it was still amazing to have everyone there. It was fun to see certain family members and friends, who I always thought might get along, conversing. And to know that anywhere I turned in a room with almost ninety people, that my eyes would always land on a the face of a loved one.

I think Sam and I are both in a sort of surreal limbo right now. Life has returned to normal, for the most part, but I still can't quite get used to the idea that I don't have anything in particular I should be doing. (Well, I do, but at least not a wedding to-do list.) Our apartment is still a somewhat overturned mess of boxes, votive candles, wine, and a hefty chunk of wedding cake. My full length mirror is still leaning against a wall in my living room. So I guess one of the post wedding tasks I should be doing is cleaning. And I will at some point. Right now I'm just enjoying looking around my living room at the chaos and remembering when it was filled with friends and family eating bagels and practicing dance moves. And perhaps just waiting for my husband to get home, as he's better at squirreling away votive candles than I am...


  1. It was an absolutely wonderful wedding! I wish you and Sam nothing but the best, and thanks so much for letting me be part of such a big day for you both!! I love you so much!

  2. I love your post. I am in the same sort of post-wedding limbo. I started a couple of poems while waiting at La Guardia. The Big Event keeps bringing on big emotions.

    I've got to get a print of that picture!

    Love, Mom

  3. Enjoy the messy apartment! It's fun to have it messy for a little bit and filled with those memories in the form of random food and wedding items. Thanks again for letting us be a part of your wedding. Standing up there and watching y'all get married, I was getting pretty nostalgic of the fun times we have had in the past almost-20 years. I am just oh so happy to see you with someone that genuinely adores you, as he should. Love you Susan!

  4. Thanks to you all! I'm so glad you were able to be part of it as well!

    Also, Mom, we'll definitely get you a print. We're waiting til a few more photos come back.

  5. That photo is so cute!! I'm getting misty eyed all over again. I agree it's bittersweet because I wish I lived closer to everyone. I'm already planning the next trip together, though. Enjoy your honeymoon!

  6. It was the best wedding I've ever been to. :) It was great, really. The location, the people, your family, Sam's family, your friends. I am really really happy for you! And of course: thanks for inviting us! Gordon will eat chicken (from your wedding) for at least 2 more weeks. :)

  7. Hi Susan, Hi Sam,
    I was just talking to your mom and she referred me to your blog for a sweet picture of the two of you. So lovely. Your post really gave me a sense of how it was for you that wonderful day. Looking forward to photos so I can share more vicarious wedding joy. Hugs,Sharry